Journey to Intimacy [親密之旅] - Wounding & Healing

黄维仁博士 "亲密之旅"       原生家庭的創傷與醫治

Refer to:http://www.palmsky.blogspot.com/2009/06/journey-to-intimacy.html

My wife and I attended a one-day educational program conducted in Fremont, California on April 28,  and we learned how a family of origin may hurt generations and how an effective tool may heal wounded hearts. This was my second time to listen to and talk with the inspiring speaker, Dr. Wei-Jen Huang (黄维仁), the "Doctor of Love".

Two key messages are:

- Everyone has abilities to hurt and heal others.
- Healing is to internalize love experiences in a long-term, unconscious, and continual process to establish experiential re-wiring in the brain, with a safe, secure, attached, and supportive environment.

Our left brain controls our logical and rational activities, while the right brain controls emotions and healing initiatives. Intention is not equal to impact. Very often we understand a situation where our intention to take actions is initiated, and yet it takes a long time or a long path from an intention to getting an outcome that has an impact. Knowledge can be increased by left brain exercises, while emotional practices on the right brain enhance the ability of achieving wisdom and leading a healing process.


The challenges are how we practice and direct our emotions to increase our wisdom of viewing angle and viewing insight. For example: Great and experienced doctors can distinguish a signal from a noise and identify a clue for an accurate clinical treatment. We simply don't want to use our left brain to function for emotional attachment (so-called "top-down"), yet we need to practice our right brain to have wireless connections with right brains of others ("bottom-up").


Dr. Huang stressed two elements of healing -- "grace"(恩典) and "truth"(真理) . The grace comes from our belief, our God, so our motives can last long, and the truth is the foundation where boundary and discipline guide our intention and action in making things better. The Truth (真) always comes first, followed by the Good (善) and the Beauty (美) in sequence. For an understanding as well as classification, Dr. Huang summarized the levels of healing:

- behavioral/environmental,

- physiological/biological,

- thoughts/cognition/feelings,

- feelings about feelings/core beliefs and schema,

- relation centered.

Psychological wounding may cause three different types of personal attachment: "avoidant", "anxious/ambivalent", and "disorganized", as opposed to "secure" type. Wounded people require an understanding and acceptance on the base of empathy to foster neuro-wiring and networking, and they need to establish "intimacy"(親), selectively, with others and let the attached group influence/trigger a positive development for a positive impact. "Intimacy" (親) is the key element for interactive deep healing.

Learning is an endless process for goodness. I was moved by Dr. Huang's passion and devotion backed with faith.

Written on April 29, 2012

Quantified Self for Goodness

Life isn't always as bright as we may have thought. I started focusing my time on learning; I enrolled in a class at college for management study and attended a few more meetup groups in Valley. Lately, I found there were many aged persons like me who were active in participating events. I enjoyed the conversations with young guys and so-called "hackers", persons who see themselves a software freelance working on apps and writing codes and always show their coolness.

Quantified Self (QS) is a new movement and a heated topic. I learned from a few case studies presented by enthusiasts about how to quantify personal health and wellness in hope to better manage personal life. The concept of self-tracking is not new, but is changing the way we think best for us. With certain tools used on mobile and Internet, one can get cumulative data to compare and analyze co-relationships of personal activities, such as taking exercise, diet, managing sleep. Wellness is part of God's gift, yet we often abuse our life to be distracted down. How we reverse back to the origin is the way how we should monitor and track our daily activities so as to end up with balanced results. Illness comes primarily because we do not care for ourselves well. Eating too much is a killer to our health, while sugar can be seriously harmful.

Self quantification requires motivation that connects God's plan on us. When all things work together for good, those who are blessed must sustain good health in mental and in physical.

Remark:

I was encouraged by those who presented their own self-experiments at the Quantified Self (QS) meetup conducted at Google in Mountain View, California.

http://www.meetup.com/quantifiedself/events/53773962/

Written on March 28, 2012